What do Angelina jolie, Lindsay Lohan, Halle Berry, Christina Aguilera, and Audrey Hepburn have in common???All of them are successful, desirable and seems like to be living their dreams…no, not just this…They all deal with something which in layman’s language is known as “daddy issue”. Not everybody is lucky to have a secure, loving and ever-present father figure in their lives. Absence of a father figure or a not so good relationship with fathers during childhood has the tendency to spill onto the adult life relationships which girls embark.
The psychological term for daddy issue is Electra Complex or Bernfield Factor. Sigmund Freud developed the term Oedipal Complex and Electra Complex was pioneered by Carl Jung. The idea of having daddy issues relates more to the fact that a girl received inadequate or inappropriate attention from the father figure in her early life. An absent father might trigger a girl’s desire to seek male approval elsewhere, and as teens or young adults. An abusive father might seriously wound a father/daughter relationship. Daddy issues can thus be perceived as attempting to work out problems with the father/daughter relationship, in either its complete absence, abuse of the relationship, or unreliability.
Girls, or young women, might express unresolved daddy issues by seeking relationships of romantic nature with older men, or alternately, they might replicate their poor relationships with fathers by having abusive partners. Generally, daddy issues implies that a female remains incomplete and seeks some sort of fatherly or familial relationship with mates, which is not the best foundation upon which relationships should be bulid.The range or degree from which one suffers from, may differ from individual to individual depending upon their experiences. Many of us face these issues, the only difference is, some are aware and some totally clueless.
There is a lot of debate and controversy on whether daddy issues truly exist or not, and much debate on the Oedipal complex as a whole but its unarguably true that fathers or a strong and consistent male presence in a girl’s life do have a significant effect on her self-esteem. This is largely undisputed by experts in psychology. Feeling attractive and loved by “daddy” (or other strong male figure) can help a girl have more confidence and strength. It does appear from studies that as though girls and women can prosper better in their lives if they have positive male input from a father figure. Without that, girls may express daddy issues in seeking out father figures, or placing even very good men with whom they are in relationship, in positions that they really can’t adequately fill. A person still working on this may try to make today’s relationships “serve” a need that was not adequately fulfilled in childhood and adolescent years. This can lead to poor relationships with men in the present and the future, until the women is able to reconcile a past father/daughter relationship. Usually therapies are seen to be the only way to solve this issue. But there are many small little things we can do in our daily lives to deal with it.
Awareness and acceptance are the very first steps to new beginnings. Introspection and a rational and unbiased investigation into your own self would not only help you to enhance your self-sawareness but also to a very large extent give u answers to many unsolved mysteries.Realising the problems and their acceptance paves its way to a better NEW-U!!!You cannot possibly go back into the past and change it...and why would you ever want to do so???All that you are today as a person is all because of the experiences you have had.Good, bad or ugly they all make a beautiful you today. Be proud of your past and accept it. Conscious dealing in your day to day chores; living in the present moment and living it to the fullest; pursuing your dreams; taking up small activities that keep you refreshed and happy can be a great boost to your self-esteem.
Everybody is struggling at their own levels and everybody has a story-the only difference is some harp on it while others keep it a mystery and move on in life…Where would u want to be???I’ve always believed that it’s not what happens to you how you deal with it which makes all the difference. If these Hollywood celebrities could deal with their issues and become successful, desirable and live their dreams and overcome their problems then why can’t you????As they say-anyone successful, never had it easy….Go overcome your struggles and shine!!!!!!
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